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If you want a recipe for rela...

If you want a recipe for relationship failure, just wait for the other person to change first.

Harriet Lerner 87 quotes

We cannot make another person...

We cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance no longer can continue in the same predictable pattern.

Harriet Lerner 87 quotes

Anger is neither legitimate n...

Anger is neither legitimate nor illegitimate, meaningful nor pointless. Anger simply is. To ask, "Is my anger legitimate?" is similar to asking, "Do I have the right to be thirsty? After all, I just had a glass of water fifteen minutes ago. Surely my thirst is not legitimate. And besides, what's the point of getting thirsty when I can't get anything to drink now, anyway?" Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel--and certainly our anger is no exception.

Harriet Lerner 87 quotes

Many people value criticism i...

Many people value criticism in the early stage of a relationship, but become allergic to it over time. Remember this: No one can survive in a marriage (at least not happily) if they feel more judged than admired. Your partner won't make use of your constructive criticism if there's not a surrounding climate of admiration and respect.

Harriet Lerner 87 quotes

In long-term relationships .....

In long-term relationships ... we are called upon to navigate that delicate balance between separateness and connectedness ... we confront the challenge of sustaining both--without losing either.

Harriet Lerner 87 quotes

The happiest people are focus...

The happiest people are focused on living their own life (not someone else's) as well as possible.

Harriet Lerner 87 quotes

Through words we come to know...

Through words we come to know the other person--and to be known. This knowing is at the heart of our deepest longings for intimacy and connection with others. How relationships unfold with the most important people in our lives depends on courage and clarity in finding voice.

Harriet Lerner 87 quotes

We'll always be disappointed ...

We'll always be disappointed if we believe that we can plan for a peak experience and make it happen. True joy can't be anticipated or planned. It just strikes.

Harriet Lerner 87 quotes

Differences don’t just threat...

Differences don’t just threaten and divide us. They also inform, enrich, and enliven us.

Harriet Lerner 87 quotes

The bolder and more courageou...

The bolder and more courageous you are, the more you will learn about yourself.

Harriet Lerner 87 quotes

The best apology, I think, wa...

The best apology, I think, was from my husband, Steve, who slept with a close friend of mine decades back, when we were committed to being life partners but not yet married. And many of the factors that made Steve's apology so healing are universal. One important thing is that he confessed to the affair, rather than my discovering it. He looked deeply into his own history in terms of why this happened, but he never used that history as an excuse.

Harriet Lerner 87 quotes

Anger is a signal, and one wo...

Anger is a signal, and one worth listening to.

Harriet Lerner 87 quotes

The strongest relationships a...

The strongest relationships are between two people who can live without each other but don't want to.

Harriet Lerner 87 quotes

Only through our connectednes...

Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.

Harriet Lerner 87 quotes

An intimate relationship is o...

An intimate relationship is one in which neither party silences, sacrifices, or betrays the self and each party expresses strength and vulnerability, weakness and competence in a balanced way.

Harriet Lerner 87 quotes

Keep in mind that the tendenc...

Keep in mind that the tendency to be judgmental - toward yourself or another person - is a good barometer of how anxious or stressed out you are. Judging others is simply the flip side of judging yourself.

Harriet Lerner 87 quotes

Although the connections are ...

Although the connections are not always obvious, personal change is inseparable from social and political change.

Harriet Lerner 87 quotes

Before modern feminism, stori...

Before modern feminism, stories of female ambition were silenced or erased; even now, they are told with apology ("Yes, it's a great honor to be a Nobel Prize laureate, but really, what I love best is staying home and being a mother to Kevin and Annie").

Harriet Lerner 87 quotes

It is an act of courage to ac...

It is an act of courage to acknowledge our own uncertainty and sit with it for a while.

Harriet Lerner 87 quotes

We need to hear the sound of ...

We need to hear the sound of our voice for what we think and need.

Harriet Lerner 87 quotes

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