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Irina Dzjuba

Well, it starts with being wi...

Well, it starts with being willing to feel what we are going through. It starts with being willing to have a compassionate relationship with the parts of ourselves that we feel are not worthy of existing on the planet. If we are willing through meditation to be mindful not only of what feels comfortable, but also of what pain feels like, if we even aspire to stay awake and open to what we're feeling, to recognize and acknowledge it as best we can in each moment, then something begins to change.

Irina Dzjuba
Irina Dzjuba

The biggest obstacle to takin...

The biggest obstacle to taking a bigger perspective on life is that our emotions capture and blind us.

Irina Dzjuba
Irina Dzjuba

Trying to change ourselves do...

Trying to change ourselves doesn't work in the long run because we're resisting our own energy. Self-improvemen t can have temporary results, but lasting transformation occurs only when we honor ourselves as the source of wisdom and compassion.

Irina Dzjuba
Irina Dzjuba

Compassion isn't some kind of...

Compassion isn't some kind of self-improvement project or ideal that we're trying to live up to. Having compassion starts and ends with having compassion for all those unwanted parts of ourselves, all those imperfections that we don't even want to look at.

Irina Dzjuba
Irina Dzjuba

Remember that this is not som...

Remember that this is not something we do just once or twice. Interrupting our destructive habits and awakening our heart is the work of a lifetime.

Irina Dzjuba
Irina Dzjuba

Everything in our lives has t...

Everything in our lives has the potential to wake us up or put us to sleep. Allowing it to awaken us is up to us.

Irina Dzjuba
Irina Dzjuba

Hope and fear come from feeli...

Hope and fear come from feeling that we lack something; they come from a sense of poverty. We can’t simply relax with ourselves. We hold on to hope, and hope robs us of the present moment. We feel that someone else knows what is going on, but that there is something missing in us, and therefore something is lacking in our world.

Irina Dzjuba
Irina Dzjuba

To be fully alive, fully huma...

To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest. To live fully is to be always in no-man's-land, to experience each moment as completely new and fresh. To live is to be willing to die over and over again.

Irina Dzjuba
Irina Dzjuba

Share the wealth. Be generous...

Share the wealth. Be generous with your joy. Give away what you most want. Be generous with your insights and delights.

Irina Dzjuba
Irina Dzjuba

We can stop struggling with w...

We can stop struggling with what occurs and see its true face without calling it the enemy. It helps to remember that our spiritual practice is not about accomplishing anything - not about winning or losing - but about ceasing to struggle and relaxing as it is. That is what we are doing when we sit down to meditate. That attitude spreads into the rest of our lives.

Irina Dzjuba
Irina Dzjuba

Meditation accepts us just as...

Meditation accepts us just as we are-in both our tantrums and our bad habits, in our love and commitments and happiness. It allows us to have a more flexible identity because we learn to accept ourselves and all of our human experience with more tenderness and openness. We learn to accept the present moment with an open heart. Every moment is incredibly unique and fresh, and when we drop into the moment, as meditation allows us to do, we learn how to truly taste this tender and mysterious life that we share together.

Irina Dzjuba
Irina Dzjuba

So even if the hot loneliness...

So even if the hot loneliness is there, and for 1.6 seconds we sit with that restlessness when yesterday we couldn't sit for even one, that's the journey of the warrior. (68)

Irina Dzjuba
Irina Dzjuba

The ego seeks to divide and s...

The ego seeks to divide and separate. Spirit seeks to unify and heal.

Irina Dzjuba
Irina Dzjuba

When we practice generating c...

When we practice generating compassion, we can expect to experience our fear of pain. Compassion practice is daring. It involves learning to relax and allow ourselves to move gently toward what scares us. The trick to doing this is to stay with emotional distress without tightening into aversion, to let fear soften us rather than harden into resistance.

Irina Dzjuba
Irina Dzjuba

Usually we regard loneliness ...

Usually we regard loneliness as an enemy. Heartache is not something we choose to invite in. It's restless and pregnant and hot with the desire to escape and find something or someone to keep us company. When we can rest in the middle, we begin to have a nonthreatening relationship with loneliness, a relaxing and cooling loneliness that completely turns our usual fearful patterns upside down.

Irina Dzjuba
Irina Dzjuba

Each time you stay present wi...

Each time you stay present with fear and uncertainty, you're letting go of a habitual way of finding security and comfort.

Irina Dzjuba
Irina Dzjuba

When you refrain from habitua...

When you refrain from habitual thoughts and behavior, the uncomfortable feelings will still be there. They don’t magically disappear. Over the years, I’ve come to call resting with the discomfort “the detox period,” because when you don’t act on your habitual patterns, it’s like giving up an addiction. You’re left with the feelings you were trying to escape. The practice is to make a wholehearted relationship with that

Irina Dzjuba
Irina Dzjuba

Sticking with uncertainty is ...

Sticking with uncertainty is how we learn to relax in the midst of chaos, how we learn to be cool when the ground beneath us suddenly disappears. We can bring ourselves back to the spiritual path countless times every day simply by exercising our willingness to rest in the uncertainty of the present moment—over and over again.

Irina Dzjuba
Irina Dzjuba

Awareness is the key. Do we s...

Awareness is the key. Do we see the stories that we're telling ourselves and question their validity? When we are distracted by strong emotion, do we remember that it is our path? Can we feel the emotion and breathe it into our hearts for ourselves and everyone else? If we can remember to experiment like this even occasionally, we are training as a warrior. And when we can't practice when distracted but KNOW we can't, we are still training well. Never underestimate the power of compassionately recognizing what's going on.

Irina Dzjuba
Irina Dzjuba

Anxiety, heartbreak, and tend...

Anxiety, heartbreak, and tenderness mark the in-between state. It's the kind of place we usually want to avoid. The challenge is to stay in the middle rather than buy into struggle and complaint. The challenge is to let it soften us rather than make us more rigid and afraid.

Irina Dzjuba

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